Thoughts on friendships

So...lately I have been struggling with so many thoughts and emotions about friendships and decided to blog about it to help me process my feelings. I feel like adult friendships are hard.  There I said it. See when it was just me back in the day, before kids or even my husband for that matter, I was able to be just me. People got to know me for me and liked me for me. I had several friends who I felt so comfortable just laying around in pjs and watching movies with from high school to college to right after college. I am still close with some of those friends, but we are all spread out now so we can't hang out in person. When I got married, friendships seemed to shift more from just friends for me to now couples friends. Then, when I had Owen (and now two more) it became about finding couples friends, mom friends, church friends, neighborhood friends, and on top of that finding the time to spend with extended family. So I've thought about why it feels so hard for me to connect with people. I feel like friendships get going and we're really connecting and then those friends start hanging out with other people and I get forgotten about. I know that in every area of life there is a season. I know that I am in the season where I have a baby and better yet three crazy boys needing my constant attention. Don't get me wrong, I love them and love being their mom with my whole being, but I am also missing connecting with friends like I used to. I am the friend who reaches out to people to hang out, or texts to see how they are doing, or invites their family over,  or gets our kids together, or offers to help them out. I wish people knew that when I reach out I am majorly stepping out of my comfort zone. If people really knew me, on the outside I'm very outgoing and loud, but on the inside I'm very introverted and just want to sit and hang out and talk or watch a movie. Very few people know the real me, because it is hard for me to open up and connect. But when you get to know the real me, I can be the best friend you will ever have. But...I feel like I have very few friends who reach out to me. It really does hurt and it's confusing. I feel like when someone has a baby, sometimes that's the hardest time in their life, and to have no one text or call to see how I'm doing or to ask me to hang out has really opened my eyes to the true "friendships" I really have. Maybe it is just a season and those people are busy trying to juggle their lives too and I get that. But it takes two seconds to pick up a phone to connect with someone. So I'm going to continue praying that God brings the right friends into mine and my family's lives...people who will be there for us and will reach out and actually want to get to know us and not just say hi in passing. I will also pray that God restores friendships and reconnects us with people we once hung out with all the time. If anything, these last few months have shown me that I need to continue being a good friend because you never know who is feeling the same way I am or who needs a friend too. 

Jess

Reece 6 months

Reece,

You are 6 months old! We blinked and 6 months went by in a snap. 

Even though you are already 6 months, your dr appointment isn't until the middle of August. So we will update your stats in your 7 month blog.  You are wearing 6 month and 6-12 month onesies and sleepers still. 

You are still such a talker and smiler. We all love being around you because you are so fun and sweet. 

You can roll all around now and are almost army crawling. Also you got two bottom teeth this month! You are definitely still teething because you are chewing on everything you can get your mouth on including fingers, knees, faces, and shoulders (mostly mommys).

You are taking 5 breastfeedings a day and one at around 2am.  You are up to two baby food feedings a day although you still aren't eating very much. You are not a big fan of green beans but seem to like everything else so far. You still take 3 naps, and your night time sleep has improved a little this month.  You go to bed usually between 7-830 and then wake up around 2 to eat and then wake up for the day around 7. 

When put on the floor now, you immediately start moving around and grab whatever is laying by you. You still love the jumperoo and bumbo and love to go on walks.

You are still doing great at bottles when they are offered to you. 

You still love water too. 

One of the new things you do is to constantly stare at your fingers when they wiggle. It is so sweet to see you trying to figure out the world around you. 

You got to see Jett again this month and got to meet Aunt Emily. 

We love you sweet boy so much.